You are probably reading this article because your relationship has ended recently and it was not your idea. You still want your girlfriend back. Your first instinct will be to try to convince her she has made a mistake or to convince her you will change. This is understandable, but not effective. At this point, she is not ready to listen to logic. Her emotions are working overtime and anything you say right now will be seen as a way to manipulate her or to try to control her. She will not appreciate this. The last thing you want to do right now is cause her to be more resentful, when in reality she is certainly wondering if she did the right thing. Don’t give her any reason to assume she did.  Learn what to do after a breakup.